I don’t want diamonds for my anniversary…

 

Twenty years… Seems like a long time, doesn’t it? Yeah, that’s how long we have been married and yet it feels like… (no, I won’t say yesterday) …probably our  6th or 7th anniversary. But you know what? We could have gotten away with that thought if not for our kids; kids who are 16 and 13 now! So yeah, we can’t escape. There is proof that we have been married that long in case our mind doesn’t seem to register that.

Twenty years… it’s sort of a milestone, isn’t it? Shouldn’t we be planning something spectacular? May be a trip to our dream destination; a grand gala event; expensive gifts. Probably. But no. We have no such plans as of now!

As my husband put it, “It’s our 20th year, my dear, it deserves a year-long celebration! Let’s not reserve it for just this day alone.”

It’s not how much we spend on the anniversary that makes it special, though that is exactly how the outside world seems to see it. And somehow, we end up convincing the same to our inside world, too. We end up measuring our happiness by the amount of money we spend on celebrating. Not that it’s a deliberate attempt to show the world anything, but sometimes we just use money as a yardstick to measure the amount of love we have for one another.

But we all know it’s not all in the glittery show. It’s in the quiet togetherness we feel; it’s in the warmth of love that keeps multiplying manifold with each passing year; it’s in the cozy family we created together; a small cocoon, a safe haven in this big world;  it’s in the affection and bonding we share; it’s in the little things we do for each other.

There have been anniversaries before that involved diamonds, trips to dream destinations and gala celebrations at expensive hotels! But this time, though we kept thinking that it’s a milestone year, and we should be doing something extraordinary, we really didn’t feel the need to impose such expectations on ourselves, just for the sake of it.

There have been a number of days when we had done extraordinary things for each other, have had impromptu celebrations for no rhyme or reason, and booked vacations to enjoy time together as a family. No special occasion. Just because we felt like it.

This time around, with the kids’ exams going on full swing, (though that’s not an excuse) we didn’t feel the need to do anything elaborate and just wanted something simple. Something soulful. A day doing just the things we would love to do; simple pleasures in life, you see.

So we started planning; we decided to start the day watching the sunrise on the beach, while sipping coffee together; sounds good to me! Then followed by a relaxed breakfast right on the beach watching surfers and kayakers doing their thing; then a restful day spent at home to freshen up and recharge for a musical evening listening to our all-time favourite singer belt out some of the evergreen yesteryear songs we grew up with, and then ending the day with a quiet candle-light dinner at a sea-side restaurant listening to the waves crashing in and soaking in the gentle ocean breeze blowing on our faces. Seems just about right! Sounds like a plan to me…

I am grateful for the blessings I have in my life; my absolutely wonderful husband and my adorable kids. I am grateful for being able to experience all this love in my life. I am grateful for all the choicest blessings God has showered me with already. Diamonds are great, but this…this is even better, better than the best there is!

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31 Comments Add yours

  1. purbajune says:

    So beautiful. Love is a million times more precious than diamonds. I loved the way you chose the celebrate the special day.

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    1. Thank you so much Purba. I am so glad you liked it.

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  2. That sounds like a very special day indeed!

    Happy twentieth, and here’s to the decades of togetherness to come.

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    1. Thank you dear Damyanti for the lovely wish.

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  3. poojakawatra says:

    Happy 20th Anniversarymy dear!! Love is a celebration every single day and falling in love with same person over again.

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    1. Absolutely Pooja. Thank you so much for such a lovely wish.

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  4. Smitha Ancy Cherian says:

    Happy Twentieth to you both for all that you have achieved and learned in this long run. May you stay so forever. May your love inspire your kith and Kin and have great stories to pass on.

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    1. Such a lovely comment Smitha. Soo happy to read this. Thank you so much for that lovely wish.

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  5. Prerna Wahi says:

    A beautiful write up Kalpana. I felt like you poured your heart out in this one. It completely reflects your personality. Nice thoughts.

    As for me, maybe I would love the diamonds as well as everything else you mentioned 😜

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    1. I knew you would say that Prerna! haha…I know diamonds are lovely…got them for a few times. and i know how we girls never tire of diamonds (diamonds are a girls best friend…and all..) But this had to be even more special…something money can’t buy (don’t tell me “for everything else, there’s mastercard”) haha..
      And thank you for your lovely wishes dear. Means a lot!

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  6. Beautifully written Kalpana. Happy 20th anniversary! Isn’t it important to fall in love with same person again and again in relationship? You post says it all.

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    1. It sure is…that’s the beauty of growing together and growing wise together (i won’t say old…hehe) Thank you so much for your wishes dear.

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  7. Kalpana, may you get to celebrate the 50th together! Lots of love.. Happy anniversary!

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    1. Thank you so much for those lovely words. Means a lot!

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  8. Lovely piece Kalpu! Stay blessed!

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    1. Thanks Geetha…Thank you so much for your wishes. Thanks for stopping by.

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  9. Dr. Surbhi Prapanna says:

    Many congrats for completing 20 years of marriage. your post expressed the depth and beauty of your relationship. #surbhireads

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    1. Thank you those beautiful words and wishes Surbhi.

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  10. tinacharya says:

    Celebration is totally a personal choice. The extravaganza shows how much money you have earned and not exactly HOW MUCH LOVE YOU EARNED/ Loved the way you chose to celebrate. its always about our own happiness, rather than making others opinionated. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY

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    1. You summarized the content of my post so well Tina. It’s so heartening to read your comment. Thank you so much for your wishes.

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  11. TheMomSagas says:

    That’s exactly how I would want my anniversary celebration to be. No great pomp and show. Just simple quiet time together. 👍🏻

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    1. That’s the best way isn’t it? Glad to know you think so too. Loved reading your comment and hoping to read more of your posts and staying connected.

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  12. Congratulations for your marriage anniversary. Craziness and being young at heart takes love to the next level. May your love flourish with every passing year.

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    1. Those beautiful words just made my day Paresh. Thank you so much for the lovely wish.

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  13. The Words Kraft says:

    Such an adorable post. 20 years of marriage is nothing short of a milestone. Considering the cruel world we live in now. Wish you all the very best. And heartiest congratulations.

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    1. Such a beautiful thing to say! It sure is! Thank you so much for the lovely wishes. 🙂

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  14. Varsh says:

    The title of this post seemed interesting and am so glad to have read this. This is a refreshing and feel-good one at a time when couples measure their love and companionship by the gifts and vacations they enjoy and share with the world. God bless you both. This picture is beautiful. Keep smiling! 🙂

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    1. What a lovely thing to say Varsh! You just made my day! I am happy you decided to click on the post 🙂 and so glad to know that this topic resonated with you. Loved reading your comment and glad we feel the same way about things. Thank you so much for your wishes. And also for the special mention for the title and picture too. Hope to stay connected and hoping to read more of your posts soon. Thanks for stopping by and hope to see you around. 🙂

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  15. Diamonds may be long lasting but true love is definitely stronger and perseverant.

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  16. Happy anniversary again, Kalpana. I love the plans you have for today. I’m all for celebrating love quietly!
    PS: You look like you’re in your early 30s! 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much dear Corinne. I think that comes with maturity…Aww i liked your PS a lot! Thank you 🙂 *Blushing*

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